WHAT DO SUCCESSFUL PEOPLE

Steve Jobs

Before you transfer article by Dr. Travis Bredberri

Today, we once again return to this theme, and talk about some things that should avoid emotionally literate people to remain calm, restrained, and keep control of themselves. They need to consciously avoid certain emotions because they are very tempting, and if not careful, to no good, they do not lead. The following list (which is far from complete) presents nine key things that should be avoided in order to increase their emotional stability and activity.

1 They do not allow anyone to limit their joy

When your sense of pleasure and satisfaction is the result of comparing yourself with others, you are not the master of your own happiness. When emotionally literate people feel good from what they've done, they do not let anyone's opinions or achievements to rob them of that feeling. Yes, it is impossible not to react to what other people think of you, but you should not compare yourself to others, and to the opinions of others should be treated with a certain grain of salt. Thus, no matter what other people think or do, your self-esteem will always come from within. Regardless of what people think about you at any given point in time, one thing remains certain: you are never as good or as bad as they tell you.

Warren Buffett

2 They do not forget

Emotionally literate people are very quick to forgive, but that does not mean that they are all forgotten. Forgiveness requires letting go of what happened, in order to be able to move on. But this does not mean that the offender will be given a second chance. Emotionally literate people do not want too get caught up in other people's mistakes, so they showed great perseverance in order to protect themselves from future harm.

3 They do not die in combat

Emotionally literate people know how important it is to survive to fight another day. During the conflict, uncontrolled emotions can make you rush into battle with such force that you eventually get serious damage. If, however, you will understand well in their emotions, you can wisely choose the place for the next battle, and be able to stand on his own, when it is really necessary.

4 They do not give preference to perfection

Emotionally literate people do not aim to achieve perfection, because they know that perfection is unattainable. Human beings by nature are fallible. When your goal is perfection, you'll always be with a sense of frustration, and ultimately will spend all their time trying to grieve over the fact that you were able to do, and over what could have been done differently, instead of just enjoy the fact that we managed to achieve.

Bill Gates

5 They do not live in the past

Defeat can undermine your confidence and make you believe that you are unlikely to be able to achieve better results in the future. Emotionally literate people know that our success lies in their ability to work in a failure, and that they can not work like this, if there will always be living in the past. To achieve something, you want to go on a certain amount of risk, and it is impossible to suppress their faith in the ability to succeed. And when you live in the past, is what is happening, your past becomes your present, and prevents you from moving forward.

6 They do not dwell on the problems

Is focused on what your focus determines your emotional state. When you concentrate on the problems faced, you create and maintain a negative emotions and stress, which reduces your activity. If you focus on actions that will help you improve yourself and the circumstances, you create a sense of personal efficacy, which in turn creates positive emotions, and activity increases. Emotionally literate people do not dwell on the problems, because they know that they are significantly more effective when focused on solutions to these problems.

Elon Musk

7 They do not bind to the moaners

Whiners - it's bad because they are mired in their own problems, and not being able to concentrate on solutions. They want people to have made their party and joined their whining for them to feel better. People often feel pressure when listen to the whiners because they do not want to pass for rude and chёrstvymi, but there is a fine line between listening grateful whiner, and participation in his negative emotions. This participation can only be avoided by setting certain limits and alienate themselves from whiner when it is needed. Think of it this way: if a person smokes near you, are you going to sit next to him all day, inhaling his smoke, and doing "passive smoking"? No, you probably will try to distance themselves from it. With whiners should do the same. To distance, and stop the flow of whining, there is a great way. You just have to ask the whiner, how he intends to solve the problem. Whiner in this case, either calm down, or redirect the conversation in another, a more productive direction.

8 They do not keep evil

Negative emotions that come along with the offense, are in fact a reaction to stress. Your body is in such a situation is switched to "fight or flight". When the threat is serious, this reaction is essential to your survival, but when such a reaction is some old grudge, it could have devastating consequences for your health. Researchers at Emory University found that constant stress is always accompanied by high blood pressure, and heart disease. If you harbored some resentment, it means that you keep a stressful and emotionally literate people try to avoid these situations at all costs. The ability to forgive old grievances not only make you feel better right here and now, it will also allow you to strengthen your health.

Richard Branson

9 They do not say "yes", while in fact it does not want to

A study conducted by the University of California, San Francisco, shows that the harder you tell someone "no", the more you will suffer from stress and depression. Inability to say "no" - really a serious problem for many people. "No" - it is a strong word that should not be afraid to use. When it comes time to say "no" emotionally literate people try to avoid phrases "I do not think I can," or "I'm not sure." Saying "no" to the new undertaking, you keep your existing commitments, and get the opportunity to successfully carry them out.